Parents who are looking for their child to be able to express their emotions are looking to parents who have the right parenting style.
They are looking in the direction of their child’s parents, not to others, according to a survey of more than 1,500 parents by the University of Arizona.
While most of the parents surveyed say they would like to have their children grow up in a different parenting style, they are willing to consider alternatives that can help them express their own parenting styles.
Parents were more likely to say that they would want to see their children “grow up in the right way” than to see them grow up differently, according a survey conducted by the National Center for Education Statistics.
For instance, when parents are told that their child will be doing chores or that they can’t have him go to school, they were more willing to accept the option to “opt out” than if the parents were told that they could opt in and have their child do homework.
Parents who want to have a child “grow out of” certain parenting styles also expressed more support for having their child spend time in school, compared with parents who did not see that as a goal.
“Parents who want their children to grow up with the right amount of autonomy, in terms of having their own time, are more likely than those who don’t want their child growing up with those kinds of expectations to accept that their kids will have to go to some school or work,” said Rebecca Schatz, assistant director of the University at Albany Center for the Study of Parenting, in an interview.
“When parents want their kids to grow out of certain parenting style and to be free of certain things, that’s the kind of freedom that parents should be able [to offer].”
Parents were also more likely in some cases to say they felt they were in the best position to change parenting styles if their child “has a problem with discipline,” or if their children are being punished too harshly.
This may be because the child is being raised by a “parent who has a problem” or by a parent who is “very controlling,” said Kristin O’Connor, a research assistant professor of education and director of research at the Center for Research on Child Development at the University School of Education at the State University of New York at Albany.
Parents may not want their son to be punished, but they also don’t necessarily want their daughter to be bullied.
The survey also found that the most common reason for parents not wanting their child, or their child who is not related to their own children to be in a specific parenting style was because of other reasons.
“It’s important to note that there are a lot of parenting styles that are not necessarily ‘right’ and that there is not one right way to be a parent,” Schatz said.
“The more we talk about these things, the more we learn that there really are different parenting styles for different kids.”
In the survey, parents also were more interested in how much time their child spent in their home compared to their peers who didn’t have a different type of parenting style in their lives.
Parents in this study who had children were more than twice as likely as those who didn.
“You can’t really say that you have an optimal amount of time to spend with your child,” Schats said.
That said, she said, parents who are trying to raise their children in a more independent and self-sufficient style are more willing and able to do so.
“A lot of parents think, ‘I can’t give my kids the freedom to be the best they can be,'” Schatz added.
“But the fact of the matter is, the truth is that parents are free to have all the time and space they want.”
Parents also were less likely to want their own child to have the type of academic and behavioral problems that might lead to isolation, Schatz noted.
“They’re less willing to allow their own kids to have those problems,” Schitz said.
Parents also tended to think their child would be better off with a single parent, compared to having a child who had a sibling.
“Parenting styles aren’t about whether you have a brother or sister,” Schutz said.
They’re about what kind of parent you want your child to grow into.
“She added, “What we’re seeing is parents who want a child to not be in the ‘other side’ of the world.
“And that’s what we’re finding.””
And that’s what we’re finding.”