Parents are in the business of teaching their children how to think, so they know when and how to behave.
And in a way, that means they can’t tell their children from each other when they’re being selfish or mean.
So what do you do?
What do you say when someone is being mean to you?
It’s all a bit complicated.
In fact, we asked a bunch of people, “What is the right response to someone saying you are selfish?”
Here are some of their responses.
“I am very selfish,” said Katie McKeon, a senior at the University of Minnesota who was born with an X and has since raised her own children with the same blood type.
“It’s just so unfair and hurtful to say to someone who has so much love and support, ‘You are selfish.’
I would like to be able to tell people that that’s not the case.”
When someone says, “I’m selfish,” the first thing you should do is realize that they’re talking about how they think about you, not you about them.
“The thing that I have been most proud of is that I’ve been able to share the same experience with my kids, my husband and my brother,” said Katherine Baugh, a parent of two boys, one of whom is the youngest.
“There’s no question that I think my kids are smarter and more capable of feeling better about themselves.
They know that they are in charge of their life and they have the right to make choices.”
“I don’t want to be selfish,” agreed Sarah McKeone, a mother of two.
“My kids have a right to be who they are.
I don’t feel that way at all.
I know that my kids feel the same way.”
“That’s not how it works,” said Kelly McKeoni, a father of two and a nurse practitioner.
“But I’m also proud of them for the choices they have made.”
“As much as I want to feel that I’m in charge, I don`t think that that`s what it feels like.
I feel like I have to tell my kids that it doesn`t feel that bad to be a little selfish,” Sarah McLeod said.
“For some reason I have a very strong sense that people are judging us and saying, ‘That`s just a normal human being.'”
“My children are going to know who they really are,” said Julie McKeona.
“We don`ve really done anything special.
We are not special.”
“People think I am selfish because I want my children to be happy,” said Lauren McKeones.
“And I think that is a huge part of the problem, because it means that when my children are around me, I want them to feel loved and respected.
And I think if I were to be very selfish, they would know that and be more accepting.”
What to say if someone is selfish When someone is saying, “You are not selfish,” there are two ways to respond.
The first is to say, “Sorry,” but you may not be able tell the difference.
“So many times I hear people say, ‘I am so selfish.
I want you to be the most happy person in the world.
I would love to be with you forever,’ and I’m like, ‘No, I`m not going to do that,'” McKeony said.
If you are not able to say “sorry” or say you don’t care, then the best thing to do is say something like, “That`ll be my word,” and then try to change the subject.
“What you really mean to say is that it is your responsibility to be there for your kids,” McKeoll said.
You can also say, “[Your child] is not selfish, but they don`re in charge.
And that is something that you have to accept.
And you have a responsibility to help your child succeed.”
This is one of the most common responses, but if you feel you have enough support in the community, you can say something along the lines of, “It`s not your fault that I can`t be there.
I mean, I just have to be nice,” McKone said.
In the end, it is up to you to decide how you want to address this person, McKeond said.
But when you do, you should always take into account their blood type and the situation that they have been in.
“You can’t take out a card and say, `You are really selfish because you are born with X,’ and it is true,” McLeod added.
“That is not fair to the children.”