The spanish version of a word that means “father” in English: parent.
Parenting in Spanish, as in English, can be a frustrating process.
And while many parents in the country speak Spanish, that doesn’t always make it easy to find them.
The most common reason parents don’t want to talk to their kids in Spanish is because they are afraid of them, said Julia Tévez, a social worker at the Centre for Intercultural Communication and Learning (CICL).
Tévyz is a member of the national advocacy organization “Uno de la Comunidad Social de la Empresa de la Ciencia,” or the Children and Youth Council of Spain, which has been fighting to bring Spanish-speaking parents to the table for some time.
“They don’t speak to their children in the language they speak, they don’t understand the nuances, they’re afraid of their kids,” she said.
Tévez said parents in Spain often have little patience with the difficulties Spanish-language speakers face.
“They’re very impatient with what they perceive as their child being a problem,” she explained.
In her experience, parents of Spanish-speakers often tell her they have been frustrated with the fact that the language doesn’t allow them to have conversations with their kids.
They often cite the lack of vocabulary, lack of a shared language, and lack of the right vocabulary to help their children learn to talk in Spanish.
A recent report by the Centre of International Relations and Policy at the University of Leiden shows that nearly 80 per cent of Spanish parents surveyed have difficulty in expressing themselves in a Spanish-to-English communication.
There are many reasons why Spanish parents might not be able to communicate with their children effectively.
For instance, many Spanish-only parents are also bilingual.
They may also be afraid to speak to the children because they have a strong sense of belonging in the Spanish-dominated culture.
According to Tévier, it can be especially difficult to reach parents of other languages.
“When you ask for help in Spanish and they’re not in the same culture, they may not be comfortable with that, because it’s difficult to speak Spanish to them,” she told The Globe and Mail.
And there are some reasons why parents might have trouble communicating with their Spanish- and English-speaking kids in general.
For instance, when a parent speaks Spanish with their kid, they often find themselves looking at their own kid’s face rather than at their kid’s, according to Tívez.
If parents of a non-English-speaking child are able to speak English, they might also be less likely to be able communicate with the kids because their child is “not in a bilingual environment.”
When a Spanish parent talks to her kids in English they often speak to them in Spanish because it seems easier for them, Tívyz explained.
But a child speaking in Spanish can be challenging to talk with in the home, especially if their Spanish isn’t fluent.
Even in Spanish-centric countries, it’s often not clear what the parents want to say.
According to Térvez, it is difficult to find an open dialogue with a parent when their child doesn’t speak English fluently.
She also noted that the lack a shared cultural language in the family may make it hard for parents to find the time to work together to help.
As Tévíz explained, parents sometimes don’t have a good idea of what they want their children to learn, and they may be hesitant to communicate their ideas because they don “want to be sure that they’re doing the right thing.”
“Sometimes they may think that the child will be a bad person if they don, for instance, tell him to read a book and say something like, ‘I hope you will not be afraid of me, because I’m the same as you,'” she said, adding that this may not always be the case.
Tévilas also stressed that parents should be aware of how their children may feel in the process of speaking to their child.
She said parents need to be mindful that it’s important to keep in mind that children may be learning to communicate in a language they do not speak.
“We need to make sure that the conversation takes place in a way that’s not inappropriate,” she added.
With that said, there are ways that parents can talk to Spanish-and English-speaker children, Tévez said.
For example, if parents want their kids to understand that they can “sit with us,” that is, talk to them without the language barrier, they can take their kids out for a picnic.
And parents can make sure their kids are aware of the fact there is a bilingual school for Spanish-influenced kids in their neighborhood.
They can also teach